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15 Minutes of Fame – for Caregivers

August 9th, 2013

6913a_Web_Cover__sq_250px_whiteonredWomen often find themselves in the position of caregiver – for children, parents, or others with special needs. The demands of caregiving can leave us feeling depleted and sad. A new book from Tryn Rose Seley, 15 Minutes of Fame: One Photo Does Wonders to Bring You Both Back to Solid Ground provides some ideas on how to raise your effectiveness and lower your frustration if you are caring for a relative or others who have dementia.

In the book, Tryn says: “As a caregiver, I share one photo, one song, one story about that person’s life every day, all day, whatever we’re doing. I wrote this book because I want to empower you to do the same.” The book has stories about people she has worked with and what she’s learned, along with photos and illustrations to give you ideas on how to deal with the frustrations of working with someone who might not remember a conversation that you had five minutes ago, but remembers people, stories, and talents from the past. Read more…

Take care, and stay in touch,

Tryn Rose Seley,

Author, 15 Minutes of Fame: One Photo Does Wonders To Bring You Both Back to Solid Ground at www.caregiverheart.com

trynrose@gmail.com

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From Arizona to You-A Story about Caring

This morning, my husband found a hummingbird, lying on the ground, freezing. It might have had a fight with another territorial hummer, or it might have run into our window near the feeder. First, he picked it up with gloves, and placed it on a towel in the sun, so it might warm up and recover. We planned to rearrange our day, nurse it back to health, clear out a big box, re-purpose a dropper to feed it nectar. Then, it flew away into the sunshine! We were ready to lend more support for its recovery, but were glad it recovered from its traumatic experience with a little help from us.

The other action we took was we added a second feeder in another part of the yard, so there wouldn’t be so many fights. There’s room for everyone, friends…

Like caregiving, sometimes we make plans for that person’s best interests, and part of the plan is useful, but the rest is not needed, or things change moment to moment.

May your path be as smooth as it can be, and you are ready to smile when a challenging moment turns towards the sun.

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Photo: This morning, my husband found a hummingbird, lying on the ground, freezing. It might have had a fight with another territorial hummer, or it might have run into our window near the feeder. First, he picked it up with gloves, and placed it on a towel in the sun, so it might warm up and recover. We planned to rearrange our day, nurse it back to health, clear out a big box, re-purpose a dropper to feed it nectar. Then, it flew away into the sunshine! We were ready to lend more support for its recovery, but were glad it recovered from its traumatic experience with a little help from us. The other action we took was we added a second feeder in another part of the yard, so there wouldn't be so many fights. There's room for everyone, friends... Like caregiving, sometimes we make plans for that person's best interests, and part of the plan is useful, but the rest is not needed, or things change moment to moment. May your path be as smooth as it can be, and you are ready to smile when a challenging moment turns towards the sun.

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Take care, and stay in touch,

Tryn Rose Seley,

Author, 15 Minutes of Fame: One Photo Does Wonders To Bring You Both Back to Solid Ground at www.caregiverheart.com

trynrose@gmail.com

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Book Review for “15 Minutes of Fame”-Brenda Avadian, The Caregiver’s Voice

Thank you Brenda Avadian for the review! Visit her website for wonderful resources.

The Caregiver’s Voice Review: 15 Minutes of Fame

 

 

 

 

 

 

Tryn Rose Seley’s 15 Minutes of Fame is wisdom delivered elegantly. 

The best ideas are often so simple we knock ourselves on the head and ask, “Why didn’t I think of that?”

Well, professional caregiver, photographer, and musician, Tryn Rose Seley did think of it in her attractive book, 15 Minutes of Fame (Empowering Caregivers of those with Alzheimer’s).

Seley has spent her life with people who need care, from her early childhood with her brother to caregiving in private homes and care communities. Seley has developed simple techniques that transform the cognitively impaired person’s anger and discomfort into peace and acceptance.

How does she do it?

In her introductory remarks, Seley writes:

As a caregiver, I share one photo, one song, or one story about that person’s life
every day, all day, whatever we’re doing.

That’s all? Just one photo?  One song? One story?

When you read her book, you realize how in 15 minutes she brings people back to terra firma or “solid ground.”

She explains why this technique works and why it’s important for  both the caregiver and care recipient.

Want a hint?

In the fast-flowing river of life–sometimes all it takes is one person who will take a few moments to connect with another, meaningfully.

This beautifully crafted book makes a delightful gift for the holidays or anytime of the year.

Caregiver Heart – Tryn Rose Seley’s website

15 Minutes of Fame is available on Kindle at Amazon.com

 

About the Author

Brenda Avadian, MA, Executive Director, founded The Caregiver’s Voice in 1998 while caring for her father who lived with Alzheimer’s disease. As a prolific author and national spokesperson for family caregivers and professionals, she brings hope and strength to caregivers with knowledge, support, and humor.

 

Take care, and stay in touch,

Tryn Rose Seley,

Author, 15 Minutes of Fame: One Photo Does Wonders To Bring You Both Back to Solid Ground at www.caregiverheart.com

trynrose@gmail.com

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How to Celebrate Holidays, and Create Them Every Day

Be gentle with yourself and your expectations around holidays, which can be challenging for any of us, particularly those living with Alzheimer’s. Plan with care, enjoy your family and friends, and adjust the schedule to suit a person’s energy. Notice, adjust and explore how it goes to retain the joy of holiday times with some new strategies for success.

Here are some suggestions of ways to celebrate holidays:

1) Have a party early in the day, when energy is best.

People living with Alzheimer’s or other forms of dementia, like many of us, need to conserve energy. Never mind the midnight traditions; if you gather at 10 a.m. or 2 p.m., you and your family member or friend will enjoy the event, skip the over-extended feelings, and get home at a reasonable hour.

Feel the fun of staying up late, but readjust reality to suit your needs. Set the clock to Midnight at 6 p.m. on New Year’s Day, sing, celebrate, and go home early!

I worked for a beautiful retirement community in Colorado. For holidays and special occasions, we decorated the glorious room which had high ceilings, grand wooden floors, and stained glass windows. It was a setting likened to a five star hotel. And on New Year’s Eve, we lowered the large sparkling crystalline ball-at 7 p.m. We toasted the New Year, sang “Auld Lang Syne,” kissed each other, and went home while we still had stamina to carry us there!

2) Create a quiet room for 1:1 visits, and film the rest of the festivities to re-play for days, months, and years to come.

A person living with dementia can manage short, simple visits. Create this atmosphere for success. The happy, boisterous fun can happen in another part of the house. The best part: if you run a camera in both rooms, you have captured the joy of the party, and can selectively play back the event in smaller bursts to enjoy the fun at any time of the year. You can improve the mood on a Tuesday in March, or a Saturday afternoon in July. When you and the one you care for needs a lift, play this footage.

3) Leave a journal for family and friends to write memories of this gathering, or ones from the past, to read aloud any time you need a good story.

Write something in the front cover to prompt these stories, like “I remember Mom making plum pudding; we’d rush to the table to get a taste! Tell your plum pudding story here…” or “What’s a friendly piece of advice Dad gave you over the years?” or “Share a story about a memorable holiday present or event. I know you’ve got one!…”

Holiday visitors may come once a year, but you can extend their presence by asking them to write thoughts, affirmations, and stories from childhood, college, or any part of life. It’s a gift that keeps on giving; it’s why we invented writing, so we can ‘go back’ and read it again for information or pleasure. Writing these stories down brings the past to the present, where it can be re-lived, now and in the future.

When it comes to holidays this year, consider this: notice, adjust, and explore the possibilities of having full celebrations a different way. Don’t give them up; change them up.

Tryn Rose Seley, Author of “15 Minutes of Fame: One Photo Does Wonders” at caregiverheart.com

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Take care, and stay in touch,

Tryn Rose Seley,

Author, 15 Minutes of Fame: One Photo Does Wonders To Bring You Both Back to Solid Ground at www.caregiverheart.com

trynrose@gmail.com

Purchase PDF version of 15 Minutes of Fame

For those of you who prefer Amazon Kindle versions, Click Here.

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Caregiving Strategies to Engage with Seniors with Alzheimers 07/23 by Empowering Family Caregivers | Blog Talk Radio

Caregiving Strategies to Engage with Seniors with Alzheimers 07/23 by Empowering Family Caregivers | Blog Talk Radio.

Check in with me on eCareDiary’s radio show! This link will lead you to the interview live on Tuesday, July 23rd at 11am Arizona Time, 2pm EST, or any day after this one. Call 347-857-3399 to talk with me and Polly Whitehorn, host of the show. Follow this group for great caregiving resources.

Take care, and stay in touch,

Tryn Rose Seley,

Author, 15 Minutes of Fame: One Photo Does Wonders To Bring You Both Back to Solid Ground at www.caregiverheart.com

trynrose@gmail.com

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Alzheimer’s Story Starters – Android

You, the caregiver, are the Story Starter. When you start the conversation, you get things rolling.

via Alzheimer’s Story Starters – Android.

Androidians, download this free App! It gives you something great to talk about when you need it. Let me know how it goes.

Take care, and stay in touch,

Tryn Rose Seley,

Author, 15 Minutes of Fame: One Photo Does Wonders To Bring You Both Back to Solid Ground at www.caregiverheart.com

trynrose@gmail.com

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Featured Presentation

I read a question from a caregiver, asking about family visits to a care community. I learned as a Life Enrichment Coordinator to invite families to share stories about their husband, sister, or friend so we could know, appreciate and learn to love that person as much as they did. Families brought in quilts she made, medals of honor he earned, pictures of treasured cars or doll collections or rose gardens.

This is how it affected all of us:

1) It brought the wonderful life stories back to life, right then and there, and gave us something to talk about. When the listeners heard one story, they added their own stories to the conversation.

2) It gave the family caregiver a way to celebrate his or her family member, renewing  feelings of pride and joy about their loved one.

3) It spruced up a regular day, and made it extraordinary.

We all have stories to tell. If we tell them, it can generate life for all who are there to hear them. Create a featured presentation, any day you need one.

My friend in Colorado, an oral historian, shared this with me: her husband went to a storytelling workshop when their son was young. The leader’s advice was, tell the stories now, no matter how young a kid is. My friend agrees, they followed this advice, and is also very glad her grandparents kept telling their stories as she grew up. Now she can write them down and pass them on to future generations.

May we all do the same, for the benefit of your own heart, the heart of the one you care for, and those who join you in care. Type up the best stories, or hand-write them, and leave them on the coffee table, the refrigerator, the dining room table, for all to tell, and to enjoy.

Take care, and stay in touch,

Tryn Rose Seley,

Author, 15 Minutes of Fame: One Photo Does Wonders To Bring You Both Back to Solid Ground at www.caregiverheart.com

trynrose@gmail.com

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Summertime/Anytime Real-Life Engagement

Caregivers can feel guilty that their family member or friend can’t golf 18 holes, or garden the back 40 anymore.

Don’t let guilt stop the creativity.

Go to the restaurant at the club and tell the best golfing stories you have. Bring a bowl of tomatoes onto the screened-in porch, or the dining room table. Notice, adjust, and explore.

Once a group of men who played golf together for years noticed one friend fading energetically. Eventually he received the diagnosis of Alzheimer’s. His friends adjusted. They played 10 holes, then 5, and ended up on the bench, swinging clubs, describing the holes-in-one stories. Beautiful.

A friend of mine brought her mother into the kitchen while she prepared supper, bringing in fresh vegetables from the garden. She sometimes put on The Cooking Channel. By the time they served up at the table, her mom believed she had made supper herself. Let her believe.

Let your creativity get the better of you. Give yourself the widest possibilities for delight today. If you need to, pop over to the grocer’s and buy some tomatoes to go with the gardening stories. They’ll taste just as good, and the story from long ago will come to life today.

 

Take care, and stay in touch,

Tryn Rose Seley,

Author, 15 Minutes of Fame: One Photo Does Wonders To Bring You Both Back to Solid Ground at www.caregiverheart.com

trynrose@gmail.com

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About Alzheimer’s: Changing My Perspective

This spring, I drove to Tucson to direct a church choir for the weekend. I live in Phoenix, 2 hours away, and was starting to get used to the heavy truck traffic on Route 10. One truck barreled by me, close and threatening. My first reaction was, “Watch out! What are you doing?” Then as I traveled forward, I saw that the truck had moved out of a lane to avoid hitting another driver who’d had an accident. So my second reaction was, “What a careful, thoughtful driver.” It was a complete change of state for me, from feeling frustrated to feeling thankful, because I changed my perspective.

Sometimes I don’t know what motivates the actions of a person with Alzheimer’s. My first reaction might be, “Watch out! What are you doing?” But when I think about that someone as a person who is navigating the world with less ability to explain his or her actions, I realize it’s *my* turn to create a careful, thoughtful answer for that person’s actions. It’s a change of state for *me*, from feeling frustrated to feeling thankful for this person, staying active in life, doing his or her best to make choices about life.

Safety is a consideration, but often a person is just trying to figure out what’s happening today, and what he or she is supposed to be doing to engage in this day.

When I change my perspective, it expands my ability to give support to people, rather than acting from frustrated energy, or trying to change someone. the energy I bring to the day affects me, him or her, and those around us. I like creating the place in myself where I can give respectful, generous energy and attention to another. It benefits both of us.

Take care, and stay in touch,

Tryn Rose Seley,

Author, 15 Minutes of Fame: One Photo Does Wonders To Bring You Both Back to Solid Ground at www.caregiverheart.com

trynrose@gmail.com

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eBook: 15 Minutes of Fame: One Photo Does Wonders

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You treat a disease: you win, you lose. You treat a person, I guarantee you win – no matter the outcome. ~Dr. Hunter “Patch” Adams

This guide empowers you to know what to do for a family member or friend living with Alzheimer’s or a related dementia through photos, songs, and stories.

You can download the PDF, which is viewable on any computer or device, by clicking the above “Add to Cart” button.

 

Take care, and stay in touch,

Tryn Rose Seley,

Author, 15 Minutes of Fame: One Photo Does Wonders To Bring You Both Back to Solid Ground at www.caregiverheart.com

trynrose@gmail.com

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