Holidays and Alzheimer’s: The Foot-Up View Just Got Better

Great idea! Bring the tree to you

Great idea! Bring the tree to you

This picture was taken by a minister friend in PA. He’s had some physical issues at Christmas, but what better way to handle it than this? They brought the Christmas tree to the bedroom. Wow, the foot-up view just got better!

My sister-in-law called on my birthday, which is always near Thanksgiving, and shared this thought: she was missing last year’s celebration, saying she thought it was “the best gathering we ever had.” Then, this year, when she and her family celebrated, she changed her mind. “Then I realized, no, *this* is the best holiday celebration ever!”

My dad shares a similar philosophy: “My favorite holiday is the one I’m having.” Adjust, enjoy what you have, create some new traditions, like bringing the Christmas tree into the bedroom.

A few more tips for good holiday times, whether it’s the 4th of July or a birthday in winter or spring:

Celebrate early, so you and your loved one can rest well by evening.
Have at least 2 rooms of activities: one for 1:1 quiet visiting with the person with dementia, and the other for boisterous cake-cutting and noise-maker-tooting. You’ll serve the needs of children and other adults without overwhelming the matriarch or the one who needs less bluster and more smiles and hugs and private jokes between daughters or grand-nieces.
Use your phones for a short sweet video that you and she can re-visit in the future! It takes only a few seconds to say “I love you!” and to laugh together and enjoy the laughter for years to come.

I hope that you are having a new but wonderful holiday with the one you care for. Don’t give them up, change them up. Email me anytime for specific tips for successful holiday celebrations. [email protected]

Take care, and stay in touch,

Tryn Rose Seley,

Author, 15 Minutes of Fame: One Photo Does Wonders To Bring You Both Back to Solid Ground at www.caregiverheart.com

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Firebird Book Award

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Firebird Book Awards Inspiration winner, November 2022

Thank you, Firebird Book Awards, for the “Inspiration” category prize this year! I wrote the book to inspire professional and family caregivers to gain energy for the journey ahead, creating solid ground under your feet and sparking ideas in your mind and daily life to benefit all of you. Follow the link at the top of the website to purchase this book, and email me for special rates: [email protected]

Creativity comes in many forms: Photographs, music, life stories, dancing, poetry, Bible readings, art experiences, and more. Try them, you’ll like them, and it will give you lovely things to do during the day, bring an authentic joyful connection between you, and grow the trust between you to accomplish your daily goals of eating well, exercising, reducing stress, and honoring a person’s true life interests. It works for me as a practitioner, and I’d like to hear how these ideas work for you.

Take care, and stay in touch,

Tryn Rose Seley,

Author, 15 Minutes of Fame: One Photo Does Wonders To Bring You Both Back to Solid Ground at www.caregiverheart.com

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AlzAuthors: “15 Minutes of Fame: One Photo Does Wonders”

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I’m proud to be an AlzAuthor, a wonderful group of men and women who know what you’re going through, and have written books with heartfelt understanding, life stories, ideas, and inspiration. There are 300+ authors in this group, so some of these collections are sure to catch your eye and inspire you on the journey with Alzheimer’s.

And please know, we are here for you every day of the year. You are not alone. We have walked our paths, and we light the way for you.

Take care, and stay in touch,

Tryn Rose Seley,

Author, 15 Minutes of Fame: One Photo Does Wonders To Bring You Both Back to Solid Ground at www.caregiverheart.com

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Music To Our Ears: Interview with Lori La Bey

“Tuesday, a—-fternoon…” This is the song that comes to mind as we have our conversation on Tuesday, April 12th at 2pm EST, 1pm Central, 11am Mountain/Arizona. Alzheimer’s Speaks Radio is internationally known for its online presence as a fantastic resource for those with Alzheimer’s or other dementias and their caregivers. This photo is from Mindful Art class, the expressive arts class we do here in AZ.

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All That Jazz

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Take care, and stay in touch,

Tryn Rose Seley,

Author, 15 Minutes of Fame: One Photo Does Wonders To Bring You Both Back to Solid Ground at www.caregiverheart.com

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Deborah Shouse’s Book: Connecting in the Land of Dementia: Creative Activities to Explore Together – a Chapter from Tryn Rose Seley

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IMG_8536.JPGClick on the link above to get a sneak peek at my chapter in Deborah Shouse’s new book. Thank you Deborah for the honor of sharing Alzheimer’s caregiving strategies with your readers. Her book, Connecting in the Land of Dementia: Creative Activities to Explore Together, is full of ideas and practices that lead you and the one you care for to feel fulfilled and delighted on your journey of life together. Look for it on Amazon.com

What if someone listened to you carefully enough to remember some of your favorite accomplishments? What if someone reminded you of those treasured moments as a way of celebrating you?

“When people can’t tell their own stories, their care partners can tell the stories for them,” says Tryn Rose Seley, expressive arts facilitator and author of 15 Minutes of Fame.  “You can support significant events with affirmation cards, stating the achievement and thanking them.”   index cards

For example, for a client who is a retired teacher, Tryn prints on index cards,  “You love children so much. You have taught many kindergarteners, and made a wonderful difference in their lives. Thank you.”

She puts these cards in prominent locations, so they can talk about them during the day.

When I interviewed Tryn for my upcoming book, I fell in love with this simple yet profound idea. I thought of my mother and the kinds of cards I could have created for her: “You served your country as a nurse in WWII. Thank you so much for that act of bravery.”   “You painted wonderful pictures that you shared with family and friends. Thank you.”

I thought of friends who are living with dementia and the affirmations they would enjoy. I also thought of myself and my beloved partner Ron and the kinds of stories and affirmations that would make us glow.

Tryn reminded me how important meaningful activities, loving support, and affirmations are for people who are living with dementia, for their care partners, and for all of us.

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Tryn Rose Seley is a musician, photographer, author, and expressive arts facilitator. She loves to interact with people of every age and does so on a regular basis. She leads musical experiences, shares her caregiver book, and writes every day, sometimes on the back of grocery receipts, other times on the world-wide-web. www.caregiverheart.com

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Take care, and stay in touch,

Tryn Rose Seley,

Author, 15 Minutes of Fame: One Photo Does Wonders To Bring You Both Back to Solid Ground at www.caregiverheart.com

[email protected]

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Finding the Right Assisted Living Situation For A Family Member

I’m honored to share some advice from my experience with you, and with Seniorly’s readers. Click on the purple link below and read on.

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Seniorly.com is a free service for families seeking senior housing communities for their loved ones in the San Francisco Bay Area, Sacramento, Los Angeles, and beyond. Seniorly’s mission is to connect families and local housing providers by delivering services that keep seniors engaged and happy. Their Resource Center is stocked with articles on topics related to aging, and the Seniorly Living Blog features guest writing from industry experts.

We all need community. Seniorly can help you find yours!

Take care, and stay in touch,

Tryn Rose Seley,

Author, 15 Minutes of Fame: One Photo Does Wonders To Bring You Both Back to Solid Ground at www.caregiverheart.com

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Free Book Preview from Amazon Kindle Version

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Click on the link below to read a bit of this book. May it inspire you to take it home and make your caregiving path easier today.

 

 

 

 

 

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Take care, and stay in touch,

Tryn Rose Seley,

Author, 15 Minutes of Fame: One Photo Does Wonders To Bring You Both Back to Solid Ground at www.caregiverheart.com

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A Creative Life Puts Alzheimer’s Behind Us

As the new year unfolds, and continually, I am committed to promoting music, storytelling, and art-creating as “the cure” for Alzheimer’s and other dementias. It’s the path I have chosen to walk. This path bears fruit for the ones I care for, the care-partner spouses, brothers or sisters, nieces or nephews, best friends, and the others who care: neighbors, Hospice angels, grandchildren, professional home-caregivers or care community companions. Scientific research and physical treatments have their place, and not in conflict with listening to music that lifts the spirit, remembering the best stories of life with a smile and a heart-swelling effect, and writing one’s own name on the back of an art card lovingly created. May the new year be filled with experiences that raise the energy of each person touched by Alzheimer’s, and may we see this disease fade as we walk the paths we feel led to pursue in the name of wellness for all.

Create art, leave Alzheimer's at the door

Create art, leave Alzheimer’s at the door

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Take care, and stay in touch,

Tryn Rose Seley,

Author, 15 Minutes of Fame: One Photo Does Wonders To Bring You Both Back to Solid Ground at www.caregiverheart.com

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Music Music Music

IMG_8050Music is something we all can ‘resonate with.’ When I’ve done Musical Instrument Museum tours, I always ask for a show of hands: “Who plays a musical instrument?” and “Who likes to listen to music?” All hands go up. This applies to all of us. It’s the latest buzz in the culture that music improves the lives of those with Alzheimer’s or other forms of dementia, and it’s true. I’ve seen it time and time again.

The photo here shows a music book my longtime friend had left on the organ at a church in Tucson. I found out years later she had developed serious dementia. Her daughter-in-law, who had brought her home to the east coast, found an electronic keyboard. When my friend sat down and saw another songbook of hers, she played it cover to cover. If the keyboard hadn’t been provided, she may have never played again. But she had the chance to show her true colors, and they were beautiful to hear.

I knew another woman at a care community who couldn’t speak comfortably anymore, but when I started playing live music one evening a week right after supper, she sat in the front row and sang every – single – word – of – every – song. Wow, I said to myself, this is powerful. We made sure she was at each music evening, so she could access herself again so beautifully, and so others could see her come to life again, and regain respect for her as a connected human being.

We humans still need proof that someone is ‘in there’ and when we can see a transformation like this, it’s good for all of us.

So make music, or provide it for yourself and the one you care for. Keep song lists on the table or piano, and see if the one you love remembers. I’ve seen them remember often; make it easy, and start the music yourself. It will put a spring in your step too. Win-win.

Take care, and stay in touch,

Tryn Rose Seley,

Author, 15 Minutes of Fame: One Photo Does Wonders To Bring You Both Back to Solid Ground at www.caregiverheart.com

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Returning to Solid Ground – Personalizing Care – An Interview with Tryn Rose Seley

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In 2012, Tryn Rose Seley published a beautiful book titled “15 Minutes of Fame.” This little gem takes a look at personalizing dementia care and improving life’s experience for those who have trouble remembering. Creating moments of joy each day should be the focus of Alzheimer’s care, Seley says, and her book introduces readers to practical ideas for doing this.

Seley’s philosophy is designed for those who need help each day getting back in touch with people and places in their lives. Her idea of “bringing people back to ground,” or centering them with a touch, a song, a favorite photo, or a familiar story is comforting. For Seley, it doesn’t matter whether these songs or stories will be remembered; it’s all about feelings or memories in the moment. Music is an important part of awakening memories and reminding those with memory loss of familiar things and places.

Early in her career, Seley used music to open doors of communication while teaching preschool-age and children with special needs. Later, as a professional caregiver, she discovered that music and art could spark memories for older people unable to communicate. Seley’s work with the Alzheimer’s Association program, “Memories in the Making,” enriched her experience with stimulating long-forgotten memories. “We can raise energy with music and storytelling,” Seley says. “People (with memory loss) go back to one or two things that have meaning for them. We aren’t teaching art, but drawing it out of them.” Her tools of trade are her voice, a guitar, and a mountain dulcimer.

Seley’s “15 Minutes of Fame” weaves together memorable quotes, photos, and an inspirational message to those who may be frustrated or having difficulty caring for someone with memory loss. “Returning to solid ground,” the underlying theme of Seley’s writing, explores the idea of using these resources to familiarize caregivers with their charges and provide them with tools for defusing difficult moments. Reintroducing the familiar evokes thoughts and memories of things that are comfortable—a personal approach that builds an atmosphere of mutual trust and positive interaction. This approach lightens moments for weary caregivers too, and reminds them of the importance of tending to emotional needs.

Seley suggests setting aside 15 minutes a day to learn something about someone or to talk with him or her about things that have special meaning. Sharing one photo, one song, or one story about a person’s life every day is the backbone of her philosophy for nurturing the spirit. Seley acknowledges that setting aside 15 minutes may seem difficult first, but she encourages people to start small and build up.

It seems that care facilities would benefit from integrating Seley’s approach into their daily routines. When prospective residents move to care communities, for example, staff usually requests written information about their personal preferences, hobbies, and talents. Why not ask families for favorite photos, songs, and descriptions of memorable events as well? This information could be assembled into notebooks, placed in residents’ private living spaces, and used as conversation starters for caregivers and visitors. Care communities could also divide responsibility among caregivers for learning about more about residents and sharing this information with staff and families.

This beautifully written book is recommended for any caregiver or family of someone with memory loss. “15 Minutes of Fame” is available on Seley’s website at www.caregiverheart.com as a digital download, as a Nook copy at barnesandnoble.com, or as a Kindle download on amazon.com. Contact her directly at [email protected] for a hardcopy version of the book.

AUTHOR TRYN ROSE SELEY is a professional caregiver, musician, and photographer. She grew up in East Lansing, Michigan, and lived in Pennsylvania and Colorado before moving to her current home in Scottsdale, AZ. Seley has a degree in elementary education and has studied music, which she has woven into her personal and professional life.

Written By: Patricia Woodell
www.dementiastrategies.com
November 1, 2014

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Take care, and stay in touch,

Tryn Rose Seley,

Author, 15 Minutes of Fame: One Photo Does Wonders To Bring You Both Back to Solid Ground at www.caregiverheart.com

[email protected]

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