I read a recent LA Times article about aggressive behavior that can sometimes happen for a person with dementia. Usually I’d share strategies that might soothe a struggling person. But I’m here today to say, please get help if you need help caring for a person who is frustrated, unpredictable, larger than you, upset and showing it. I advised a tiny woman in a class, “You don’t need more strategies, you need to be safe if you’re feeling threatened.”
Do not promise a family member or friend, “If you need extraordinary care, I’ll do it, and I’ll be the only one.” DO promise that “I’ll always be here for you,” and “I’ll find the best ways to support you.” This is an expanding promise you can keep.